Q: hey Jay, I have seen some of your stuff, and it seems pretty interesting. I think that your ideas about relationships are good, but im hesitant to look for more advice from you because im not sure about you or why I should listen to anything you say.
I guess you have been a life coach for a while, but to me that doesn’t mean that you have actually helped anybody just that you’re good at marketing yourself. What i’m wondering is do you have a girlfriend, are you in a happy relationship. You say you used to be dorky, and now you are different but is that just marketing or are you really having amazing relationships?
If you really are talented at helping others and you aren’t in a relationship that’s just fine, im just wondering do you really have skills for helping people’s relationships and do you have any couples that have any testimony to this? –A.D.
A: Hey there. Thanks for writing in. First of all, I’ll be the first to tell you that you should NOT blindly listen to anything I, or anyone else has to say. First, you should look over the information. Next, you should ask yourself if there’s a possibility that it might be beneficial to you in some way. Finally, you should go test it out and decide for yourself if it’s useful or if it should be ignored.
And yes, just because I claim to be a life coach doesn’t mean I’ve helped anyone. I mean, all the testimonials on my site are from real people, but who’s to say I didn’t fabricate them? And even if I was able to prove that I’ve helped millions of people, so what? All that matters is that YOU get your desired result. So again, I recommend that you forget about everybody else, test everything out on your own, and decide for yourself whether I know what I’m talking about, OR if I’m full of crap. And if you really feel there’s nothing at all you can learn from me, you can always click the unsubscribe link at the bottom of this email. 😉
And as far as my relationship status goes, I’m not currently in a committed relationship but I am dating some amazing women. The fact that I work 14 hours a day makes it difficult to settle down right down. But committed relationship or not, I can tell you that the women I date treat me the way every guy dreams of being treated. And if you study my strategies, you can easily replicate my lifestyle.
P.S. While I tend to work one-on-one and rarely do couple’s counseling, if you google my name you’ll come across a video of a couple publicly thanking me for helping to salvage their relationship. It’s funny because the girl is Japanese and doesn’t speak any English.
P.P.S. And although I like to keep my personal life as private as possible, followers of my facebook and twitter pages get a tiny peek behind the scenes.
Make it happen,
-Jay Cataldo
I like Jay’s stuff and can relate to most of it. Relationship advice and coaching can be a “slippery slope” because most who seek it don’t really have a firm understanding of what makes the opposite sex tick in the first place.
I find Jay to be informative, insightful and very good at articulating his perceptions of certain situations.
Heck ya,
If you are going to trust your relationship in the hands of anyone, Jay is the way.
Whatever you believe, this is the one life arena that you CANNOT trust friends and family.
When EVERYONE elses advice failed, Jay came through. I (and my Japanese girlfriend) are now lifelong fans of Jays life coaching.
Jesse
I was one of the “Divas” that wrote for Jay’s Definitive Diva online magazine which had a forum that women wrote seeking advice. Being 43, divorced with 3 children, living with my boyfriend for 5 years, and have had several relationships in my life, it’s safe to say I have some “life experience”. I found the advice Jay gave on the forum and also on his own site to be very true in my past experiences. I did NOT follow this advice when I was younger and repeated the same mistakes many times. Now that I am more experienced, I can tell you that he is right about many things he advises about.
Cindy Fox
Thanks for the support, guys. 🙂
Hey Cindy! Hope you and Rob are doing well. 🙂
Jay, I just stumbled onto your site and wanted to see what other ” Real Life Coaches” are up to. I can tell by your answer you are one of the few legit coaches out there and your work ethic speaks for it self.
I’ve frequently encountered important questions like this about life coaching. A life coach doesn’t need to be perfect but I’ve found it helpful to be actively working on myself and striving to be the best me possible.
I like to think that I’m working on becoming more effective much like my clients are. If I were looking for a life coach I might focus on whether there is a good fit and I feel that the coach has the skills and insight to help me achieve what I wanted.
It’s vital to connect with a life coach that makes sense to us. It’s entirely appropriate to ask the coach any question you have and if you don’t get the answer that you’re looking for then move to another coach that is a better fit. The great thing is that there are a lot of talented coaches who can help people achieve their dreams.