Today, I’d like to answer a question I’m frequently asked by my male clients.
“Ok, Jay, She finally said yes. So what do I do now?”
Aka: “It took me three months to convince her to go out with me but I have no clue where I should take her. What do you suggest?”
Now first off, let me say that, even though I’m a dating coach, I’m not a huge fan of dating. In fact, I think a guy should do whatever he can to take himself out of the “dating” frame and instead, make it very clear that the two of them are just “hanging out.”
I’ll usually say something like, “Just so you know, we’re not going on a date tonight. Dating equates to a boring dinner, a sappy movie and a cheesy goodnight kiss. We’re not going to do any of that. We’re just gonna hang out and have some fun.”
Having said that, there are a few things to keep in mind when you’re spending time with a girl you’re interested in. The first thing is, you want to pack in as many places/sensory experiences as you can in the shortest amount of time possible.
For example, instead of sitting at the same bar all night, have a couple drinks, leave to grab a quick bite to eat, then stop at an ice cream place on the way home. The more places you take her to, the longer she will feel she has known you (since she’ll have more memories of you together).
Last month, I had a super cool girl fly out to visit for a few days. Since we were already pretty close, and she had never really experienced New York City before (not properly, at least), I decided to go all out and show her an amazing time.
Now, I don’t recommend going this over the top with a girl you just started dating, because it may come off like you’re trying too hard. Also, it sets a ridiculous precedent that will be impossible for you to live up to on a consistent basis.
Having said that, stay tuned for part 2 of this post where I’ll be breaking down our entire three day adventure from start to finish. If you’re ever in NYC and decide to follow this protocol (or just parts of it), I promise that your girl will love you forever… or at least until the weekend is over. 😉
Check out part 2 here: NYC Dating Magic Part 2
Make it happen,
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